Spending Time...

From our childhood on we are taught the following, "If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all." So, what I'm wondering is, what about that statement of advice is so hard to grasp on to?! Because, in my opinion, as a human race, we haven't very well succeeded in doing that. Of all the things that we're taught, why does this one seem to get overlooked, forgotten about, or purposefully ignored?! Speaking of the majority of the population, for we can all be found guilty of this at some point or another, we don't bite our tongue and let the opportunity of gossip and belittling pass us by. Instead, we seem to latch on to any opportunity to tear others down and belittle them. I don't think we do this intentionally, rather, thoughtlessly. If only we would think about the things we want to say before we actually say them, I tend to think that there would probably be a lot less being said. What is one persons struggle becomes a moment of triumph for another. Just because we don't all share the same set of trials and hardships and temptations, in my opinion, doesn't mean that we can't reach out and try to understand the position of another and help lift them out of what might very well be a dark place for them. Other peoples trials and struggles and moments of weakness don't exist to give us some right to dance around them or walk all over them in celebration for ourselves. The way I look at it, somehow we were blessed or lucky enough for it to not be us. And, because of that, we should use the strength we have to help lift another. One of my favorite quotes goes like this, "What happens to a few, happens to all." So, the way I see it, someday, sooner or later, it is going to be us, me or you, that falls, that struggles, that makes our way into a weakened and/or dark place. And, all I know is that I hope and pray that someone will be there for me. That someone will have the strength and courage to bite their tongue about the details of the situation, whatever they may be, and help me get back on my feet again. You know, rather than telling me what a loser I am, or how sinful I am, or what a bad person I am, or whatever the case may be. Because, I'm pretty sure that I'd be able to handle the bulk of that all on my own. Don't get me wrong, in this crazy world we live in, there is RIGHT and there is WRONG. What is right is right and what is wrong is wrong. And, no matter how much the world might try to make that not so, the fact of it remains. We don't have to and shouldn't accept wrong doings. We don't have to and shouldn't agree with wrong ideas. We don't have to and shouldn't support wrongful practices. Hate, loath, despise the wrong doings, the wrong ideas, the wrongful practices. Make your feelings known about the subject. Fine. But concerning the person, well, if able - try to help. And, if nothing else, just walk away. I don't know that much about anything, however, one thing I do know is that the little things we say and do can have a HUGE effect. Not only that, but a HUGE, LASTING, effect. All it takes is something small...to make a situation/a person's life so much better, or so much worse.